Thursday, November 25, 2010

From Bridesmaids Wedding Card Messages

women and networks.

If, like me, has no car, we go, of course, more often by bus or train. Is' yes practically (except if fails again, the ICE and you must stand 40 minutes on the floor. But I'm too old for a long time, and will soon be real. But really!). Of necessity you listen to bus and train other non-automotive contemporaries from some. One-sided phone calls are not as enjoyable as real conversations, and more recently, the discussions between the ladies somehow more interesting - I must sometimes quite dominate, not to interfere.

other day on the bus to the university so these girls. Probably students, probably just before the final - BA, not master - not quite so wet behind the ears, but still not very clarified. They talk about career opportunities, demographics, family policy and future plans. And although the times for highly qualified young women ever were much worse, they were not very confident. Conclusion one: women make containing no networks, which is well known. As you get into the career planning only up to a certain point, and then ...

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I've also heard before - men , Network Women song People. Men have a career, women, the laundry. I've heard it so often that I sometimes want to believe it. A nice simple explanation for a complex phenomenon. But

considered in light - simply because all "know" that does not mean yes, it's true.
women are excellent networkers. They have a higher social competence (it is said, at least ...:- D), they have a higher emotional intelligence, they are emphatic that they communicate rather than to dominate etc pp. All these properties make them at least in theory very good and reliable networkers.

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And in practice - but once we take the classic mother of young children like strike and the day care center - a job. (Almost) all of these mothers had a mother / sister / friend in the nursing group that can step in, at least temporarily. As a complex network of exchanges is woven - I get your today with Lena when my Pia tomorrow can to you, my old baby stuff compared to the small of your bike for the elders of my niece so that my neighbor .... etc. A dense network of favors and counter-pleasure, dependencies and responsibilities, and all mothers are sitting in the middle like a spider weaving and Thekla and socialize and often think several steps around the corner and if it all mean well and still have fun, the improving ways. In most cases, work these networks are quite excellent, and there are also some day care mothers "dragged along" with which one without the child might not have (so close) became friends. Namely because it is necessary to organize the daily life, child, home and work (or other obligations) to do justice.

And this is probably the real difference between male and female networks: networks, especially in men, and for the job. Women networking "private" or in their capacity as "Famillienmanagerin" - but not where they would financially benefit from it (they will benefit, of course). But invest the same skill in a professional network in a private, which we find rude, immoral, unfair, and rename it with negative terms such as squad, roped, old boys ...
The gap is, as so often in the head. Sorry. Somehow we are often
's own fault, too, if we make life so difficult. Xing and coffee breaks, we are just so available. And obviously it is not immoral - is of course even this training! But I could tell the girls on the bus so unlikely - in fact they were indeed have abandoned it ...

("Real" mothers may correct me, my example above is based on observation, not experience. When in doubt, I consider it to be correct, however, even a understatement.) Today

times their own thoughts, no links. Last
times thought Posted: Si tacuisses ...

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